You might be a twenty-something just coming into your own and seeking to establish your identity while learning to successfully navigate the tasks of adulthood. Or you could be of child-bearing and rearing years, wrestling the endless call for work-life balance with the added stresses on your relationships. Or perhaps you are in mid-life or later and struggle with caring for both younger and older generations while simultaneously striving to reclaim independence and pick up the threads lost in the child-rearing years.
You might be struggling with any of the following issues:
Fear of abandonment
Self-destructive or self-sabotaging behavior
Pressure to overachieve and/or perfectionism
Sexual problems or sexual identity issues
Body image problems and destructive relationships to food
Sexual or physical abuse and rape (past or present)
1 of every 6 women has been the victim of rape or attempted rape*
1 of every 4 children has been sexually abused before age 18**
Lack of empowerment
Choosing the wrong partners and then staying in unhealthy relationships due to fear
Being overly accommodating or overly aggressive
You might be dealing with the unrealistic expectations of women’s bodies, which can be a heavy weight that overlays your relationship to self-care and love for your own body.
You might be unaware of how differences between the male and female brain manifest in behavior and how understanding our differences can actually bring us closer together.
You could be a woman who is childless and feels the aloneness of that situation in a world that is centered around nuclear families. Or perhaps you are caught right now in the quest for a baby and your body seems to feel not your own due to the desire for pregnancy.
Whatever your circumstances, therapy that specifically acknowledges your very unique and yet very universal place as a woman will feel validating and help you to come home to your feminine nature, which is beautiful, strong, creative and fertile.
In our society, women are often are the primary caring and nurturing person for the emotional needs of their friends and families. Because they have been cast as the ones who care for others, they may fear success and competition (which can manifest in self-sabotage) and have difficulties with anger and aggression. They may not know how to set boundaries that protect them from over-extending themselves. And, the value of their nurturing may be unnoticed, unacknowledged or depreciated.
Society conditions many women to rely on external validation from others in order to feel good about themselves. Women are may not have an inner guidance system they turn to first. Instead, they may first tune into how others are reacting to find out how they should feel and act. The heart of therapy is about helping you to find your direction from within, and attune to it with ease so that you can rely on your own inner wisdom while using the feedback of the outer world as added information for evaluation.
Women’s issues therapy is not about placing blame on males for the challenges that women face. Rather, it is about empowering women to take control of their lives by learning to balance their own wants and needs with those of others and recognizing and accepting themselves for who they truly are. In fact, a greater value of our feminine allows us to have a greater receptivity for the wonderful qualities and gifts of the men in our lives.
A significant portion of my practice has always been about dealing with women’s issues. Focusing on concerns about body image, care taking, career and family balance, sexual abuse and self-care, this is a specialty I take particular joy in working through with my clients.
Please contact me today to schedule an introductory session. I look forward to helping you find the solutions to your particular issues.
*Statistic from National Sexual Violence Resource Center: Finkelhor, David, et al. “Sexual Abuse in a National Survey of Adult Men and Women: Prevalence, Characteristics and Risk Factors,” Child Abuse and Neglect, 1990.
** Walsh, K. & DiLillo, D. (2011). Child sexual abuse and adolescent sexual assault and revictimization. In Paludi. M.A. (Ed.), The psychology of teen violence and victimization, volume 1 (pp. 203-216). Santa Barbara, CA: Praeger, ABC-CLIO.