You might be a twenty-something just coming into your own and seeking to establish your identity while learning to successfully navigate the tasks of adulthood. Or you could be of child-bearing and rearing years, wrestling with the how the endless call for work-life balance stresses your relationships. Or perhaps you are in mid-life or later and struggle with caring for both younger and older generations while simultaneously striving to find or reclaim your self and pick up the threads lost in the child-rearing years. Maybe you are nearing older age and know it is time to complete unfinished business. I have helped women in all life stages to accomplish the goals they set when entering therapy.
Quite often women enter therapy to understand how to make their primary relationship happier. You might lack skills in over-riding the urge to fight over your problems, which is understandable given the powerful flight-fight neurochemistry that gets triggered by intimate partners. You might be unaware of how differences between the male and female brain manifest in behavior and how understanding our differences can actually bring us closer to men.
You might be dealing with the unrealistic expectations of women’s bodies, which can be a heavy weight that overlays your relationship to self-care and love for your own body.
You could be a woman who is childless and feels the aloneness of that situation in a world that is centered around nuclear families. Or perhaps you are caught right now in the quest for a baby and your body seems to feel not your own due to the desire for pregnancy and your interactions with the medical system.
Whatever your circumstances, therapy that specifically acknowledges your very unique and yet very universal place as a woman will feel validating and help you to come home to your feminine nature, which is beautiful, strong, creative and fertile.
In our society, women are often are the primary caring and nurturing person for the emotional needs of their friends and families. Because they have been cast as the ones who care for others, they often do not know how to successfully set and hold boundaries to avoid exhaustion. They may fear success and competition (which can manifest in self-sabotage) and have difficulties with anger and aggression.
Therapy that concentrates on women’s particular issues is about empowering women to take control of their lives by learning to balance their own wants and needs with those of others and recognizing and accepting themselves for who they truly are. In fact, a greater value of our feminine allows us to have a greater receptivity for the wonderful qualities and gifts of the men in our lives. Truly accepting our innate value as women can also help us to avoid choosing the wrong partners and then staying in unhealthy relationships due to fear.
A significant portion of my career has been about helping women, I look forward to helping you find the solutions to your particular struggle.